10 Things I learnt this Week!

1. Sometimes, silence speaks louder than words. Not all thoughts that come to your mind needs expression.

2. How to control Anger with positive affirmations. For example; someone genuinely made you angry 😈😟…either by “words or actions”,..between that short-moment of time it takes for you to reason over the persons disrespect/misdemeanor towards you and switching on the anger-mode👿…(i know, you’ve got every damn right to be pissed off sometimes😟 but most often, we get all enrage over little things that doesnt really matter)…quietly recite positive affirmations to yourself using words like,… “I shud not be angry”,…”just be calm”, …”bad decisions are often made while angry…”You lose power when you get angry… “You lose power when u get angry (for any amount of seconds it takes to calm you down) then handle the situation maturely with a calm mind. 

3. Be Ready to meet with any Body, any Time, any Day 

Don’t be caught unawares dressed poorly👸💂.be groomed and ready for interviews, business transactions, running into potential others, meeting employers, mentors, and customers every day of the week. 

4. At minimum, 4/5 of these requirements are expected of you before stepping out of the house:

i. Hair on point

ii. Clean Nails

iii. Clean teeth

iv. Neat shoes

v. Clean cloths 

5. Monitor your Routine. Its  part of who you are. Don’t be scared of breaking them when there no longer serve a pupose in your general picture of Who You Are.

6. Exercise. No further explanation needed. Its Good for your body and mind. Even if you miss some days ..still put some in whenever you can.

7. Read. Everything you lay your hands on.

8. Listen to music.

9. Learn something New every day, no matter how small. May be a word, a random knowledge, a piece of information, DIY, experience… etesera.

10. Dream.

We all have dreams.

Maybe yours is to be the best at something in school or at work, at a sport or some other passion. Or to make the trip somewhere in the world that you’ve been thinking about for years now.

Or to improve your financial situation,

social skills , find that special someone or to get into great shape. 

Don’t give up on that dream. Revisit it now and then to keep your focus on reaching the dream.

Two Wolves Within and The One You Feed

And one of the elders of the city said, ‘Speak to us of good and evil.’ And he answered: ‘You are good in countless ways, and you are not evil when you are not good.’ ” – Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

One evening, an elderly Cherokee brave told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

“My dear one, the battle between two ‘wolves’ is inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.

The other is good. It is: joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a moment and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee replied, “The one you feed.”

The tale of the two wolves portrays the good and evil that lives within, represented by the conscious and the unconscious desire of man.

If we are unconscious of our thoughts, we are at the mercy of feeding the evil wolf.

Our unconscious thoughts are the unresolved or repressed parts of our psyche. The evil wolf asserts its power when we least expect it, because it is hidden from view.

I’m aware of this darkness when a driver abruptly cuts me off in traffic and my ego is threatened. I react in a fit of simmering confrontation, believing I have been wronged. It is upon reflection, I recognise this as unconscious anger seeking to protect itself.

The ego strives to assert its will to protect and strengthen itself and thus we fall prey to its needs.

David Richo, Ph.D., psychotherapist and teacher states, “Our ego was never meant to die, only to be tamed so that its wild energies could be put to better use.”

To mitigate acting out our unconscious desires, we become mindful of our thoughts instead of numb to them. We witness them with openness and tenderness instead of with binding judgement.

Similarly, the shadow self comprises the unknown dark side of our personality. To disown the dark side means going to war with ourselves. Yet, to accept ourselves as whole is to embody our strengths and limitations – our shadow self.

This can be seen in the Yin Yang symbol represented by the two halves that together complete wholeness.

Therefore, what we feed gives rise to goodness or the collapse of character.

It was Frank Outlaw who said, “Watch your thoughts. They become words. Watch your words. They become deeds. Watch your deeds. They become habits. Watch your habits. They become character. Character is everything.”

“Goodness is something chosen. When a man cannot choose he ceases to be a man.” – Anthony Burgess, A Clockwork Orange

We may not realise we are strengthening the ego until it grows in intensity, overshadowing our personality. Like a double-edged sword, what we feed is what we must co-exist with.

So, how can we stop feeding the fear and anger within?

Without being aware, we confer power to our dark side when we identify with disempowering states. Through a false persona we form an archetype where darkness prevails.

If you walk into a pitch-black room without light, you assume darkness is all that exists. Yet, when a light is switched on, you are motivated to identify with it instead of the darkness.

The answer lies in knowing darkness is simply the absence of light.

“Experience anger or fear or shock for what they are. But you don’t have to think of them as evil—as intrinsically bad, as needing to be destroyed or driven from our midst. On the contrary, they need to be absorbed, healed, made whole,” states author Steve Hagen in Buddhism is Not What You Think: Finding Freedom Beyond Beliefs.

How do we recognise our inner radiance?

It is the loving aspect of our being, imbued with openness that infuses our hearts and mind.

“When the Buddha found enlightenment, the demons felt consternation at the prospect of so much light coming into the world. This is the archetype of the combination of opposites: Light arouses shadow and shadow arouses light. Goodness is attacked by evil forces, and forces of goodness battle forces of darkness,” affirms David Richo in The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them

I recall on one occasion during meditation practice, drawing my awareness to this inner presence. I later explained to a friend, “I felt I was going deep into my being and I loved what was there.”

In contrast, if we feed the evil within, it grows in intensity since we give it life. Yet, perpetuating evil cannot be maintained because the grim shadow leads to our self-destruction.

Thus, by integrating our shadow into the wholeness of our being, we are called home to where we belong.

I am drawn to Lama Surya Das’ message, “To realize how karma works through insight into its actual mechanics is to become master rather than victim of our fate, and to realize freedom from and even autonomy within causes, circumstances, and conditions. That is why Buddha said, ‘No one can make me angry unless I have it inside.’ ”

In keeping with Lama Surya Das’ declaration, we have the power to choose our path and not be victim to our inner demons.

Deciphering whether or not our beliefs are beneficial allows us to let go of the negative karma of the past. How do we know if these beliefs serve us? We look to our external world to see life expressing our beliefs or opposing them. Do they create fulfilment and enrich our life, or keep us hostage?

The narrative of the two wolves highlights the division inside us, vying for our attention.

We can feed harmony and joy or light the flame of resentment and false pride.

It was author of The Celestine Prophecy, James Redfield who said, “Where Attention goes, Energy flows; Where Intention goes, Energy flows.”

It is with this intention we direct our focus to nurture the goodness within. Like returning home, our soul calls us to find wholeness instead of remain alienated by the fog of separation.

25 of the Most Amazing Blog Post Ideas! (3 min read)

This is quite a terrific article on blog ideas.  I feel i’m not the only one that runs into writers block from time to time, this right here http://wp.me/p7hi1Z-3Wr is an antidote for writer’s block 😉 

Its  literally a goldmine of ideas for bloggers and i feel like..whuo!…since i learnt a thing or two from this brilliant piece, why not share it with my Cool fellow bloggers 🙂

So here it is…go through it and trust me, you won’t be disappointed.

13 hacks to a Happier Life 

Here is an overview of some of the good stuff that research has linked to happiness

Happiness is good for our health: Happy people are less likely to get sick, and they live longer.

Happiness is good for our relationships: Happy people are more likely to get married and have fulfilling marriages, and they have more friends.

Happy people make more money and are more productive at work.

Happy people are more generous.

Happy people cope better with stress and trauma.

Happy people are more creative and are better able to see the big picture.

All these positivity associated to happiness lends a good reason to why the “pursuit of happiness” is a worthwhile course. 

Check out these Images below for a clue or two on how to add more happiness to your awesome life

Thanks for reading and do share with us in the comment section some of the thinks you do that add more happiness to your day 🙂

Toby Keith To Perform For Donald Trump At “Men-Only” Concert In Saudi Arabia

This Saturday, Toby Keith — the singer who brought the world “Whiskey Girl,” “Who’s Your Daddy?” “I Love This Bar,” “Beer For My Horses,” and “Red Solo Cup” — will perform at a men-only concert in Saudi Arabia, where drinking alcohol is illegal.
What’s the occasion? Donald Trump’s visit, which — if this isn’t already sounding weird enough — will include a presidential speech on Islam.
Keith’s concert — which will also feature an Arabian lute player — is free, but only open to men.

This is in line with the country’s tradition of separating the sexes.

Saudi Arabia, where women are not allowed to drive, was ranked 141 out of 144 for gender parity in the most Global Gender Gap report.

Suffice it to say, the whole thing is almost too much for social media to handle:

Though it is unknown whether Keith’s performance is directly linked to the president’s visit, the two do have a history.

Keith was the only prominent artist to play at Donald Trump’s inauguration — where he was accompanied by 3 Doors Down, The Piano Guys (a YouTube band best known for their cover of “Let it Go” from Frozen), and a sixteen-year-old runner-up from America’s Got Talent.

The country star faced backlash for his decision, but responded that he would never apologize for singing for his country.

Will he apologize for excluding people from one of his performances based solely on their gender?

Nope. His spokesperson offered “no comment.”

While Cowboy Keith’s presence in the country seems odd, it’s no less ironic than Trump’s.

The United States President has described Saudis as “people that push gays off buildings” and “kill women and treat women horribly.”

He has also repeatedly suggested that the Saudi Arabian government is responsible for the 9/11 attacks —

attacks that Toby Keith responded to with the song “Courtesy of the Red, White and Blue,” featuring aggressive lyrics presumably targeted at the Arab world.

“Now this nation that I love has fallen under attack

A mighty sucker punch came flyin’ in from somewhere in the back

Soon as we could see clearly

Through our big black eye

Man, we lit up your world

Like the fourth of July”

Maybe that will be his encore.